Wednesday, January 29, 2014
Sunday, January 19, 2014
Feelings
I found myself part of a conversation,
at the local bar last week. It seems when we all got to comparing
reasons for being where we were, they were exactly the same. We lived
alone, and the loneliness had driven us out of our homes, to come and be
around people. This gave us a certain amount of time to be away from
the 4 walls and hear another person's voice, ideas and feelings. During
all of this, neither one even considered being in a relationship with
one of these other persons sitting in that bar. For whatever reasons we
may have had, it all came down to going home alone once we left and
finished out our evening excursions.
Christmas
Looks as though I will be alone this year on Christmas
Day..at least part of it anyway.........this is par for the course,
since I have isolated myself from most people who are users. Users tend
to ask your for this and that without ever caring whether or not they
are over extending you kindness or services. I have five children who
have lives of their own and are spending Christmas with their friends
and families. I just don't happen to be included in their festivities.
My Mom, is in the hospital and that has changed plans, with my sister
to the point of not having anything, so to speak. She's placing all her
efforts around Mom, and my step dad since they are so old, it may be
their last Christmas. This I understand, but loosing the rest of the
holiday just doesn't fit the scenario. So, since I had planned to spend
Christmas with her, I'm left to a limited amount of the day to enjoy. I
suppose, that this is what I should have expected, since I no longer
have a spouse in my life and can't rely on others for my happiness. I
can't give the extra efforts, when I don't feel them, and I don't
consider making myself go out of my way, something that makes me happy.
I can be alone and not have to put up with what others expect of me,
even if it pisses them off at me. They are doing what they want
........anyway. Why shouldn't I?
Lonely People
All the lonely People.......
A lonely person will be less trusting of others, essentially "making a mountain out of a molehill. An odd look or phrasing by a friend that wouldn't even be noticed by a chipper person could be seen as an affront to the lonely, triggering a cycle of negative interactions that cause people to loose friends. A lonely person is likely to lose touch with another person, who in turn gets cut off from others, and both end up on the fringes of a social group. It is more of a state such as hunger, which evolved as a cue to motivated our ancestors to go find food.
Over time, lonely individuals become lonelier and transmit such feelings to others before severing ties. "People with few friends are more likely to become lonelier over time, which then makes it less likely that they will attract or try to form new social ties.
Over time, lonely individuals become lonelier and transmit such feelings to others before severing ties. "People with few friends are more likely to become lonelier over time, which then makes it less likely that they will attract or try to form new social ties.
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I Miss
I get older everyday, and wonder what tomorrow will bring. Will I turn
the corner and there will be the one I'm looking to find. Will I meet
someone who I can get involved with. Should I even hope, when
everything seems so bleak? I miss being with someone, holding them
close and feeling loved. I miss being special to a person, who cares
that I'm alive and in their life. It's so hard to be alone, without
someone to love you and need you. I keep hoping that I can find a
person, who will want me as much as I will want them.
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Each One
I was sitting around several people the other evening,
and found we all had the same thing in common. We were in that bar,
drinking in order to be out of the four walls, where we found so much
loneliness. Here were several people, who were all lonely and no
interest in the people they were talking to, except the sound of
someone's voice, and conversation. Just a few conversations, about
different subjects brought us back to the same subject of being alone,
and tired of the empty place we lived. I realized that I wasn't the
only person, in this world that had found the loneliness too hard to
bare constantly.
A Reason
It's very hard to go places and see couples and families
together, during this time of the year. They say that the holiday's are
very hard on people who are alone, or elderly alone. It's very rough
to suffer through the loneliness when you see others enjoying
themselves. I reach out to people for needed attention, and many times
get snubbed or given a cold shoulder. It's just not fair that so many
have love and happiness, which they don't appreciate. I would love to
have someone in my life to be with and make a life with daily. A cat
just doesn't make up the difference, when it comes to having a
relationship. I really need someone, to give me a reason to be alive
and enjoy it on a daily basis. What's wrong with wanting to love and be
loved?
Links
Unchained Melody 117-Out of the Blue 118-The Lure Of the Unknown 119-Maricel’s 120-my blog 121-Spiff, the Spaceman 122-Living Well 123-The Dog Log 124-Catnip Corner 125-A Piece of Idea 126-Observations From the Back 40 127-Poetry by The Redneck Gypsy 128-Odd Facts 129-Juliana’s Lair 130-My life is murphy’s law 131-lisgoldsmemoirs 132-My memories, as time goes by 133-Somewhere over the rainbow 134-Blogging by Sandee 135-Our Journey to this so called life 136-Idaho Daily Photo 137-Memories that Never Fades..
Somewhere?
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Your Friends
Friends.......They love you,
But they're not your lover
They care for you,
But they're not from your family
They're ready to share your pain,
But they're not your blood relation.
They are........FRIENDS! !!!!
A True friend..... .
Scolds like a DAD..
Cares like a MOM..
Teases like a SISTER..
Irritates like a BROTHER..
And finally loves you more than a LOVER.
But they're not your lover
They care for you,
But they're not from your family
They're ready to share your pain,
But they're not your blood relation.
They are........FRIENDS! !!!!
A True friend..... .
Scolds like a DAD..
Cares like a MOM..
Teases like a SISTER..
Irritates like a BROTHER..
And finally loves you more than a LOVER.
Sometimes
Sometimes...
when you cry....
no one sees your tears.
Sometimes...
when you are in pain.
no one sees your hurt.
Sometimes.
when you are worried..
no one sees your stress
Sometimes..
when you are happy..
no one sees your smile .....
when you cry....
no one sees your tears.
Sometimes...
when you are in pain.
no one sees your hurt.
Sometimes.
when you are worried..
no one sees your stress
Sometimes..
when you are happy..
no one sees your smile .....
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Friends?
How can you call yourself a friend, when all you do is want to take advantage of me and our relationship?
All I Ever Wanted
My old flame, has been found after all these years. The
wonderful part is he's still alive. The unhappy part for me is: he's
still married to the same woman, after all these years. This is the one
that got away, or should I say the one that his mom took from me. I
still do not know what made this woman do the dreadful deed that she
did, but now I know there's always a reason, for everything. Back when
all this was happening, I sure didn't understand that concept. I was
full of hurt and rage from being lied on and misunderstood. The fact
that he chose to believe her instead of me, made it even harder to
swallow. I hadn't done one thing that his mother accused me of. I was
innocent and lost as to why she would do this? Why? I'll never know!
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Emotions
Lately, mine have been running wild with all sorts of
feelings. I found an old love awhile back and it's been a real battle
of emotions, ever since. You must understand that I have been through
several relationships during my years of life, and this leads me to
where I am today. I know that it's hard to find love at any age. When I
say love, it's a reference to the real thing. Not, just a passing or
lingering relationship. I'm talking about the one that lasts through
thick and thin, with someone who loves you just as much. That one is
very hard to find, and I feel the day will never come. How about you?
New Blog
A new blog is always uncertain, and as I begin this one I wonder about the outcome. I know that many who read this will wonder about the person, writing it. Yes, I am alone! Yes, I am lonely and wish things were different.
This blog is going to be an outlet for my feelings and possible encouragement to others who are in the same situations, as I.
So, here we go and please feel free to correspond with me by leaving comments.
Sincerely,
Nita
This blog is going to be an outlet for my feelings and possible encouragement to others who are in the same situations, as I.
So, here we go and please feel free to correspond with me by leaving comments.
Sincerely,
Nita
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